I saw @gayy_jay post something similar so I though I'd share a little bit of my experience.
The left is me at prom 3 years ago. Formal dress, makeup, hair, feminine. The whole night felt super uncomfortable for me. Looking at that picture now I find it really cringy and awful and I don't really see my authentic self at all in that image.
The right is how I dress now, day to day. I love menswear, I feel attractive and confident in a men's shirt and jeans. I have a masculine haircut, I don't wear make up. I get misgendered a lot, and a lot of people say 'oh you looked so pretty in your prom pictures' and It's hard to explain that that person at prom wasn't my authentic self and the person I am and the way I present now is the most true to myself I have ever been.
People stare at me for the way I dress now, and people judge me for the way I dress but the way I present is me, I feel attractive looking the way I do now, even if no one else thinks it 😂