[Straight girls who fetishize mlm are just as nasty as straight dudes who fetishize wlw.]
Before anybody asks, mlm stands for men loving men, which serves as an umbrella term for gay men, bi men, pan men, etc. Wlw is the same, but obviously, with women. Ok. So vocab's out of the way. Now, it's important to remember that fetishization can come in different forms, but it is ALWAYS dehumanizing and always unacceptable. We all know that many straight men fetishize wlw in same-gender relationships. They think lesbians are "hot" and will watch lesbian porn all the time, but they don't care about real issues affecting us. They'll benefit from our existences but won't recognize us as actual people. That's fetishization. Many straight girls do something similar, although it usually isn't as screamingly obvious. They'll ship male/male ships, write fanfic, gush for hours about how adorable gay guys are, but they'll get grossed out and "uncomfortable" the second a lesbian exists within a twenty foot radius of them. They'll claim to be "allies" because they ship Destiel or Johnlock or whatever, but they'll pretty much ignore the existence of mlm besides cis, white gay men. Can you see where this begins to become an issue?? In this case, "shipping" becomes a case of fetishization. Am I saying that straight girls should ship gay ships? Of course not. But when you only support LGBT folks when it benefits you and when they conform to your stereotypical images of us, that's fetishization. And, despite whatever intentions you may have, that's harmful.
Huge THANK YOU to everyone who came out to our B.Y.O.Brunch benefitting the @dwcweb on Saturday! We raised $1,045.92 thanks to the huge turnout! We are still smiling from that beautiful afternoon of great art, good company, & new friendly faces. Stay tuned for the next one! We are already scheming...🔮✨🦄 #weareallin
300 followers! It was a personal goal of mine to hit 300 by the end of March, and I just about managed it!
I remember setting a goal of reaching 100 back at the end of March back in November, but @american.independent told me that I was capable of reaching more than that, and should set a goal of 300 instead. Well guess what!!!! So a special shoutout to @american.independent for being one of my first ever followers and supporters, and also @kingofoverthinking and @liebeistkrieg for being my first ever proper internet friends, and a general thank you all of you guys as well :) there are honestly so many of you followers who I have grown to love more than people I know irl from your comments and everything else, so just thanks
~(don't judge me for this shitty ass post that's a mess I just feel happy ok)
27 DAYS UNTIL 🌴🌊👙🐬🦈🙌🏻💕!!!! I am SO SO SO grateful that I started fitness coaching 2 1/2 years ago. Not only did I have an incredible physical transformation, gain confidence, quit my waitressing job, and help others change their lives, but I also get to go on an all expenses paid fancy AF Caribbean vacation to Punta Cana, Dominican Republic. In 27 days 😃😃😃😃 This keeping me going y'all! I sweated, cried, worked my booty off both literally and figuratively, and stayed in the game never quitting and being consistent in my business of helping people. I worked during young artist programs, gigs, church stuff, travel, and when life got in the way. I never gave in to excuses. I didn't WIN this trip. It was not a GIFT. I freaking earned it, AND I get to bring someone with me. So the top coach on my team and I are gonna TREAT OUR SELVES and I am counting down the days. This is just what I need to fill my cup and keep auditioning and working hard.
Therefore, April is all about fitness and nutrition for me, dialing it in so I feel super confident on that beach. You want to join me? In just 3 weeks I'll have you with new eating habits, 30 minute workouts, and surprisingly noticeable results. And if you want to join me on the beach next year (in Riviera Maya!), send me a PM. I'm looking to give this life to a couple more people in April, no experience required (you think I knew anything about fitness when I started? Pssshhhhh)
It's beach time, baby!!! 🎉💪🏼😁