This week for me is a lesson in letting go. You can plan and strategize all you want. But remember to keep flexible in mind and spirit. It takes far less energy to let things flow then to try to control the flow itself 🌟
A trans woman's #voice can be a source of great anxiety for herself. Having a deeper voice, I know it is for me. I hate it. I work on it constantly, trying to raise my pitch and tone, and keep it in a consistent range. As I live in an increasingly violent city, where one #transgender woman was recently murdered and another beaten to within an inch of her life, I try not to draw unwanted attention to myself. I fear people will hear the deep inflections when I speak, and I begin to become self-conscious, worried their attitude towards me will suddenly shift in a dangerous direction.
It seems that my constant effort is paying off though. Daily, I am told that I by complete strangers that my voice is "beautiful", "gorgeous", "sexy as hell", "sultry", among other adjectives. A few have even said it reminds them of Golden Age actresses like Lauren Becall, the 80's steamy Kathleen Turner, as well as other more modern actresses like Catherine Zeta-Jones and Leah Remini. So I've become less stressed about it lately. In fact, I can't even remember what my old voice was or how to speak with it, if that makes any sense. My voice that I've worked on so much has become automatic and completely natural now, and that self-consciousness has been replaced with self-confidence. And I've finally grasped the reality that, like our bodies come in all shapes and sizes and every one beautiful and #unique , so our voices come in all pitches and tones. We should celebrate the uniqueness of each other, not hate it.