Why do I keep gaining/why are disordered thoughts so loud/ is my body dysmorphia rlly bad or am I just huge/I don't understand why I'm gaining so fucking much. I don't want to be terrified of food on holiday but at the moment can barely bear to look at myself
I have done some horrible horrible things in my life, I have hurt people terribly, I have let people down, I have broken promises, I have gossiped, I have rejected people, I have just done the wrong thing. I know there are people out there who I have hurt who hate me, they would look at these posts and think "who are you to ask people to follow you when you've done so much wrong?" I'm sharing this with you because I know shame holds some of you back, I know you are bound by this shame. My answer to this is simple we have all done things to be ashamed of, every single person as we are imperfect. These people who want you to carry this shame have also done the wrong thing. Where the people who want us to carry this shame forever go wrong is in thinking the things they do wrong are some how not as bad as what other people have done, they justify their actions because they know their own heart so well and know why they did the things they did. Everyone has a why, they just can't see our heart and our reasoning from their pain. All I know is staying in my shame, does not help anyone. Yes I've made mistakes but shame will not make these things any better, shame will just hold me hostage. We must learn to move on, to forgive ourselves even if others haven't and to realise we are not the sum of our past, we are what we choose to become in our future. With every wrong doing I have chosen to learn, grow and move on. Don't let shame stop you from living out your purpose, you are constantly growing, your mistakes of your past do not define who you are now xxx 💖💖💖
Word of the Day - FAILURE
Failure is an inside job. So is success. If you want to achieve, you have to win the war in your thinking first. You can't let the failure outside you get inside you. ~John C. Maxwell
What are you doing to strengthen your mindset today so your failures become opportunities for you?
Daily Drop💧Distorted. Most of you have been in a House of Mirrors at a carnival. If not we've all stepped in front of a mirror that was not accurate. It's amusing, what is not amusing is the number of folks who step in front of the mirror, EVERY TIME, with a distorted view.
Yesterday I was reminded how deep and wide this heartbreaking problem occurs. We have a great school community, the moms have been gathering for years at the pool weekly to keep the kids connected (and ourselves sane). We started a group page to communicate easier. One of my very good friends posted that she heard all the moms were starving themselves to get ready for our first gathering next week. She was being funny....but the underlying tone was not. So many of the comments used critical, harsh, damaging language. Every one of them distorted from the truth.
Negative self talk is a nasty habit that will suck the life and happiness right out of our lives. Don't get me started on the damage society and media has done by constantly bombarding us with unrealistic images, and selling us a plethora of products by telling us we are imperfect, unattractive, and have unpleasant aroma.
STOP THE INSANITY. I lived most of my life miserable. The damage was deep, it's taken years to get here, and I've got a long way to go. I refuse to miss out an one more moment of life, especially with my kids, because I feel less then.
I look at these women that I love dearly, I see them for who they are; amazing, strong, brilliant, beautiful, priceless. It hurts my heart that what they see is distorted. I know they were being funny, but we all know 90% of what we say when we are joking is truth...except in this case the truth is distorted. We are all masterpieces, please embrace that truth. We are all different, that is what makes us unique. We are real, not air brushed glossies. Even the women in those images aren't real, not truth, they are distorted to our detriment.
It's the unofficial start of Summer, do not miss one moment! Get out there and live, love yourself and this life😄❤️💧#godsgirl4ever#leggacy#dailydrop#distorted#bodyimage#masterpiece#live#life#love#yourself#truth
The Miracle Movement, Day Eighteen: Get Your Gratitude On! SWIPE LEFT for today's affirmation & assignment. Today we practice gratitude for the body that we live in. The ego wants us to feel separate from others- better, worse, more and less. Instead, today we choose the Miracle-minded perspective of seeing the body as equally as special to all other bodies through the practice of gratitude. Breath always sets me free from false perspective. Whether meditating, moving or taking in the scents of spring blooming outside. Breath reminds me that I am connected to a life force that is not measured in size or shape, but rather depth and function. This picture represents the joy that I picture happening in my lungs when I'm experiencing the presence of mind and breathing deep. Today's affirmation is about experiencing nourishment as well as gratitude for your body. During lunch today, sit quietly- preferably without a lot of distractions. Choose the most delicious bite of your meal and place it gently into your mouth. Think of your affirmation: "I am grateful for my body." Then spend one full minute actually tasting the food that's in your mouth. Chew at least 30 times and let the flavor come forward. Experience the enjoyment of flavor and center into the present moment. #miraclemovement#gratitude#breathe#breathedeep#breathelife#maycausemiracles#chooselove#bodyimage#spiritjunkiemasterclass#spiritual#spiritjunkie
We do often make ourselves the victim when we don't have to be. If you don't like something then change it.
I have struggled so much and even just recently felt that I was a victim. I felt that I couldn't deal with my own body but you know what? It's up to me to get used to any weight change and accept myself. It's up to me to have radical acceptance and learn how to love me for who I am rather than what I look like.
I can't manifest change or feel better if I don't take action. That is something we are all responsible for in life. So today do one thing to promote the change you want for yourself and go for it with your everything. At the end of today you can say you tried to do at least one thing to put you in the right direction. 💜❤️💚💛
My mission as a coach, and sometimes I think, as a human is to make this world a better place; one emotionally intelligent woman 👩🏻💼at a time. Lately I have been thinking about the effect our emotions and our actions have over our bodies. With not one, but three very important women in my life winning the battle against cancer, I have plenty to be grateful for, but also, a lot to think about. Appreciating our bodies❤ and understanding its importance is primal to the practice of self-love. If you struggle with health or body image issues🙍🏻, I invite you to practice unapologetic and intense self-care. Mind what you eat, mind how you move, mind what you say and mind what you think, 👈🏻all of those things affect you and your results. #BodyImage#Health#Mindfulness#SelfLove#SelfCare
My husband and I had a great time in NYC last night at a wedding. I hadn't gotten dressed up in so long that I'd forgotten how good it felt!! It also felt great to be out and about having fun! I need to do more of that for sure. Balance is a key part of experiencing freedom from food and body image.
Loving your body can be hard. My body has undergone such transformations in the past two years it took time to get it where it is at today. I have been a size four and now I am a size twelve. With such drastic changes it was hard to see myself as sexy or attractive now. I am no longer sick and I am strong. I am the heaviest I have been since second year university and I am beautiful. I will love all these roles and curves. My body is my temple. So remember ladies...And gents...Be kind to yourself. You are worthy and lovely just the way you are. #bopo#bodypositive#curves#health#bodyimage#juicy#beautiful#love
Down 70 lbs since around October. I hadn't stepped on a scale in years and when I decided to to something about my #bodyimage and #health , I didn't want to. I didn't want little bits of #progress or defeat day to day to discourage me so I just kept doing what I was doing and focused on feeling better. If I felt better, to me, I was doing better.
Last week I felt comfortable enough with my progress that I stepped on the #scale again to see how much I actually weighed.
Well, as of today, I am officially down to the lowest weight I've been in years. I think the last time I was this low was when I was not eating and addicted to opiates. Now it has been 3.5 years clean from opiates, I'm eating more and losing more (thanks #keto ), and getting back down to my goal weight.
Now its time to start hitting the #gym again. And hell, on top of that, I finally passed the #oneweek mark for #quitting#smoking#coldturkey
Sorry if nobody cares, but I'm pretty fucking proud of myself.
Today's intention: body love! 💗When I used to diet, I was managing my eating out of fear. I was mean to and critical of myself. While many of us resort to this method, it's not effective.
Only when I learned to nourish my body and love myself did it help me reach a healthy weight.
What is one thing you can do today to show your body love and respect?
Ok so can we all stop for second
What the hell is fat shaming?
Why is it ok to say "real men loves curves, dogs go for bones" blah blah bullshit, but not state that being fat is dangerous to your health? Seriously, being insecure about your weight is a normal thing that almost EVERYONE has to deal with, whether you're overweight, average weight or underweight. Being over weight causes so many health problems, and I don't get why it's so "shameful" to state the obvious. People die from being too fat AND too thin.
Whether your body is due to lifestyle choices, illnesses, or due to finances, if you're happy with your body, cool. My lifestyle choices have helped me accept my body as much as I believe humanly possible with an eating disorder.
If you're not happy, it's not an excuse to refuse to accept the health complications by creating "fat shaming". I don't understand how "fat shaming" is a thing, it's not ok for people who are insecure about their weight to target people that they believe look better than them, just because they are proud of their bodies. if you're confident about your body no matter what shape, that's great. If you're not a healthy weight, there is no shame in that. Being unhealthy thin or unhealthy fat is something that should be addressed. Would you call your dr out for fat shaming you?
If you're not not happy with your body, don't hate on other people for being proud of their own bodies.
When you're in a deep valley in your life, and there is no peak in sight...that feeling of hopelessness is enough to keep you stuck there. 🗻
In a perpetual state of self hate, depression, anxiety, fear, and lack.
I've been there.
I've really been there.
That place where happiness seems like a lie. 💩
Where your entire reality seems to be proving to you that you aren't good enough and you never will be.
Every time I heard people say "It gets better", or "Recovery is worth it", I just thought "That is such BULLSHIT, YOU'RE ALL LIARS." I thought people were faking recovery. Faking peace. Faking balance.
But they were telling the truth. 😱😱😱
It was my minds inability to shift its perspective that kept me in a life that I hated.
My thoughts created my reality.
If you are here right now, the biggest tip I can give you is simply to question your circumstances.
What would life be like if I was happy?
Do I deserve to be at peace?
How would my life be if I didn't worry about my weight?
If I could love myself, how would my life change?
If food didn't scare the shit out of me, what would I want to experience?
What is something I wanted to do as a kid that I haven't done?
Do I really believe that this is all life has to offer?
Start talking to yourself and just question your thoughts, your circumstances, and your life.
What if life could be different? How would that feel? 💜
I am so pumped to share a powerful conversation I had with one of my Fat Loss Fast Track clients about body image and the real reasons we want to change our bodies, lives & relationship with food.
On today’s episode, Kristi and I talk about how the mental game of nutrition and weight loss has not only changed her body but also her life.
She’s brave enough to talk about existing insecurities and what it is that she really wants – why she really wants to lose weight & change her body.
If you have ever had a body image issue, this is an episode you won’t want to miss!
Click @elizabethbenton for a link to today's episode or grab episode 340 of the #primalpotential#podcast in iTunes, Stitcher, Spotify or iHeartRadio
Inspired by @mother_of_daughters I wore this dress for the first time today for an early morning visit to the Hockney exhibition at the Tate. I've owned it for 6 years and always rejected it for being too tight, too clingy....basically body-shaming myself. Such a waste of energy and time. Anyway I wore it today and it felt great✌🏼 Our self-judgement is so limiting and a thousand times worse than what anyone else would ever think...and who cares what someone else thinks anyway! Clemmie's challenge was to wear something you always reject due to body image 👙👗👚... and I highly recommend giving it a go! Thanks Clemmie! ❤️ So happy to see these issues and discussions happening on social media. #bodyimage#bodypositive#bodypositivity#bodylove#perfectlyimperfect#normalisingnormal#yoga#yogateacher#myyoga#selfacceptance#yogaisnotjustasana#yogaoffthemat
You did not wake up today to be mediocre 👊🏼👸🏼 So I don't do competitions, or diet or track macros, or train to look shredded, and sometimes I feel a little out of place in this fitness bubble on the internet. I miss training at the moment while travelling and I do feel 'out of shape' compared to normal, and I very nearly captioned this 'Who needs abs anyway 🤷🏼♀️'. But then I stopped myself and thought about the kind of message I want to get across (and also how annoying those sorts of captions can be 🤦🏼♀️). And I don't want to post messages of insecurity that might make someone else question themselves (although of course, we all have insecurities with our bodies from time to time, this is normal). But what I do want to portray is that it is okay to love training but not to live and breathe it. It is okay to not be the strongest or the leanest because you love cake just as much as the gym (and you actually eat it too). And that it is okay to wake up and just be normal, regular you because you are doing you and that is not mediocre, that's pretty f*cking rare 💅🏼
Happy Saturday 🌸💪🏼🍰✌🏼
just finished late and huge #breakie . I'm okay-ish today but I had a weird night bc someone who impacted me a lot in the past randomly texted me and after a while I got a bit intense but I'm trying to block it out again. other than that I feel really huge and wish I could be skinny/tiny again. and only live off #watermelon bc dat shit is good 🍉 rn my parents are at another building supplies store to buy som more stuff and then I'll start to paint room.. I'm so #nervous I'm literally shaking and my heart is racing and my hands are cold an I get #cramps ugh why are #changes so difficult for me??
Meet Alexandra; protector and defender of mankind. Ellen: bright light.
You just have to spend a few seconds with Alex and you know this woman is creative and loves Jesus. She was born in Sydney, raised in Wollongbar and is now living in Brisbane. She is a youth pastor & studying part time to finish her Master of Arts in Ministry. All this moving around hasn't changed her quirky, extroverted sense of being real & honest with people wherever or whoever you are you will meet honesty!
Alex's fav word is 'uterus' and she's been known to make some people squirm... but that's the whole point! There's a real satisfaction in seeing people feel uncomfortable and awkward in social situations because when pushes them to think outside the box, make a change and smash social stigmas. That's Alex.
To my entertainment, her favourite colour is black - she believes there needs to be more black in the world, & of course pink! She loves drama, theatre & possibly could be the world record holder in attending the most musical theatre productions in one month!!!
One reason why I love Alex is that she's trucked-on through life with Dythsymia, Endometriosis, PCOS , Complex Regional Pain Syndrome and isn't ashamed to share the story's behind these health issues.
She fights the fight & all things not nice. Follow her @alexandra.ellen @the_hidden_collective
When I first created this account, I never would have anticipated in how many ways I could potentially benefit from it 🙏🏻❤️ Not only has documenting and sharing the "Story of Korey" helped me deal with my thoughts and emotions in regards to my mental illness, it has provided me with loving support and comfort from discovering others who understand and personally relate to my struggles. I have become an active member of both my local and global recovery community which I am grateful for every singe day 🌏🙌🏻 This account has introduced me to a whole new network of people who, without it, I would have never come across. People from all different backgrounds, cultures, experiences, beliefs, walks of life - all with their OWN story to share 📖 Some of whom I have been lucky enough to have met physically in person! In doing so, I force myself to push pasted my crippling anxiety which kicks in at the thought of having to engage with new people. Every time I agree to meet up with someone I get extremely nervous about how to act and fear that they won't like me, but not ONCE have I had a negative experience. In fact, this proves to myself that good things can come from putting myself outside of my comfort zone and being vulnerable to new things, which is yet another way I believe to be bettering my self-esteem and confidence 💪🏻 I'd like to thank each and everyone of my followers who I have engaged with in some shape or form, especially those I have met, for encouraging and motivating me, sharing your experiences and most importantly, giving me faith in myself that I too can overcome my mental illness. And to those I have yet to meet, never say never 😁 All my #love to you all ❤️ xxxx
Often our struggles with food and dislike for our bodies, are in fact our bodies way of asking us to dig deeper and scratch beneath the surface. To see and investigate what is really going on in our lives, our hearts and our heads. To learn to listen in and pay attention to our own unique and beautiful body wisdom - for she is smart and sensitive.
Our bodies are trying to teach us and show us that our symptoms of emotional eating, binge eating, bulimia and negative body image for example, are messages that need further exploration from us 💗
Are you tired of the dieting bandwagon?
Are you frustrated that your body barely changes shape, no matter how many hours you spend exercising?
Are you tired of just hating your body?
Are you looking for a soft place to land, to feel supported, understood, liberated and begin to release all of those negative voices from your head and re-connect to the beauty that already is your body?
Introducing The Body Beautiful Sacred Sister Circle!! Starting from Friday 16th June, I will be holding a monthly Sister Circle where will spend time delving into all aspects of body love and supporting the remembering of how beautiful our bodies already are.
Each month we will touch on topics such as desire, pleasure, freedom, sexuality, touch, movement, nourishment and many more.
We will spend time in circle working through varying activities that serve to support you in feeling fully embodied and re-connecting to that divinely feminine part of you waiting to shine once more!
You will leave with a feeling of deeper connection to self, and to your fellow sisters, and also with a small bag of gifts to support you once you leave Circle.
Are you ready to share the journey back to self love, to body love, and to get off the dieting bandwagon forever?
Tickets can be obtained by clicking on the below link. Hope to see you there!
It may be getting cooler again (typical British weather) but that will not stopped me from rocking a crop top to the gym #confidenceiskey 💁🏽
It's something I don't do a lot, but when I do, it reminds me that I have come such a long way.
May not have the most bootilious bod on the planet, nor the most defined muscles you have seen, but that isn't a problem because I am true myself, and that always be a reason to be happy.
Compare less and strive to do what YOU want to do above anything else. Stop putting yourself down for not looking or eating in a certain way and respect what your body and soul wants the most - just be yourself and happiness will come to you ✨